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Saturday, May 31, 2014

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

When It's Right...

It's not perfect but, it's right. Right in the sense that there is no Ex in the background waiting to step back into the picture full-time. You aren't constantly being reminded how your gentle love is no match for her psychodrama. There are no inexplicable midnight phone calls to his cell phone. His friends do not give you sympathetic glances whenever they think that you aren't looking.

He's not constantly trying to convince you to look the other way on his dalliances and inappropriate behavior. You know that it's a true partnership and not just a cover story to make an Ex jealous or to please his parents.

Ladies, chances are this man is closer than you think. He's patiently waiting for you to embrace a healthier  relationship.

How long will you keep him waiting?

Saturday, May 24, 2014

Friday, May 23, 2014


This is the view from my balcony. I debated whether or not to capture this moment. Not everything we experience needs to be documented.

Saturday, May 17, 2014

Natural State Of Mind

This is my hair in its natural state.

20 years ago, I would have been mortified to have anyone outside of my hairstylist see my hair this way.

 In 2014, it's a different story altogether. Granted, this photo was taken in the privacy of my hair stylist's chair.

Saturday, May 10, 2014

Soul Conversations Series: Chatting with a Soul Contract Enforcer

Every soul has to fulfill at least one contract within their lifetime. In fact, some souls are assigned to fulfill multiple contracts through out their lifetimes. These soul contracts are constantly being monitored by a review committee. Today, I am going to be chatting with a soul contract informer by the name of Vera. Vera has been a soul contract enforcer for over 15 lifetimes. She has seen just about everything under the sun when it comes to soul contracts.

Soul Mediator: Thanks for stopping by today.

Vera: No problem. I am always up for informing the public about soul contracts.

Soul Mediator: Just what is a soul contract?

Vera: It is an agreement between two or more souls which is established before they come to Earth.

Soul Mediator: That makes sense. Why do souls establish contracts with one another?

Vera: It's a way for them to learn about various things. It holds them accountable for their own personal growth.

Soul Mediator: Where does a soul contract enforcer fit into the overall scheme of things?

Vera: We make sure that the contracts are being honored. Earth is a hectic place filled with lots of noise and distractions. Souls can forget who they are and whom they are accountable to. A soul contract enforcer gently reminds them of this duty. We have carte blanche to make sure that contracts are enforced. Sometimes, this can mean having to make some tough calls.

Soul Mediator: What kind of tough calls have you had to make?

Vera: A few times, I had to break up loving relationships, prevent job promotions, and other things that I would rather not speak of.

Soul Mediator: It sounds like an intense job.

Vera: You have no idea. There are times when I want to look the other way. I see a loving couple and I don't want to interfere with their blissful life. But, I have to because one of the souls contracted to be with someone else. So, I have to help the soul honor a contract which they may not remember entering into.

Soul Mediator: Do souls ever fight you on this?

Vera: All of the time. Sometimes, they become so distraught over their losses that they fall into despair. Then, I have to improvise and bring other souls into their lives to help them heal.

Soul Mediator: So that the soul is ready to enter their agreement.

Vera. Yes.

Soul Mediator: As a mediator, I have come across many situations where souls are still reeling from having to honor these agreements. They feel trapped by the obligation. Any advice for them?

Vera: Soul contracts are not always pleasant. But, they are a necessary part of our life here. Without them, the way of things would become unbalanced.

Saturday, May 3, 2014

Random Love Interest

Random Love Interest
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I am not some random chick and yet my current relationship states otherwise. Our long range plans are hazy at best. I mean, he makes them and yet a part of me does not really believe that they will come to fruition. See, there are other people smack dab in the middle of our relationship. Their needs come WAY before mine. At first, I tried to be understanding. Past a certain age, people bring exes, children, and other random things with them into relationships. But, it feels like he is taking advantage of my patience.

Is there really a need to have an ex with whom you have no children on your car insurance policy?
Why are you inviting her family over for a barbecue at our place? 
These are questions that I ask to myself and out aloud to him.
He just upset and accuses me of being overly dramatic. 
The truth is clear to me. I am the loose end in his life. The random love interest whom just happened to be around when he was ready to settle down.

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