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i am a bougie girl: That one time...

I remember that one time when my heart was filled with doubt and dread. I knew that life was about to  throw me a few soul destroying curve balls. Still, I stood there and swung my proverbial bat anyway without a clue as to what was coming next.

Now, that time in my life feels so far away. I am working through so many things on this comeback journey. The first few steps are the hardest. Things eventually do get easier. Bur,  there will be times of inexplicable frustration as I navigate through the choppiest waters that I have ever experienced.

This is what leveling up looks like.
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i am a bougie girl: Life Moments

This past weekend, I attended my cousin's wedding. We had a blast. They served tacos at the reception and we danced for hours. It was a great weekend and I am glad that we were all able to celebrate alongside my cousin. 
These life moments are so important.

i am a bougie girl: Little Steps Here and Huge Strides There

Redesigning my life has consisted of little steps and  huge strides. A little step can be as simple as making a list of objectives which will further enhance my journey towards a redesigned life.  For a long time, I dismissed the value of little steps. I lacked the patience and frankly the maturity to understand the hidden beauty in starting small.
I have always preferred to travel my life path by taking big strides. The bold diva within me equates big strides with unstoppable momentum. 
However, I have recently learned that  the middle phase of redesigning a life is a more nuanced experience. I will have to focus this stage of the game on little steps and trust in the process.

i am a bougie girl: Closing My Eyes To Fear And Doubt

Fear and Doubt have been long running frenemies of mine. Sometimes, they have kept me from making huge life destroying mistakes. However, they have also hindered more than a few of my artistic pursuits. Fear and Doubt can be very persuasive at times and often they speak to me in whispered tones. 
Lately, I have found the best way to tune them out is to close my eyes and summon up the joy which comes from creating something.

i am a bougie girl: Shoe Polish Is A Game-Changer

Earlier this week, I re-discovered shoe polish. These boots are five years old and were ready for the trash heap. They were covered in scuff marks on  the toes and the heels. Thanks to a 10 minute swabbing of shoe polish, these boots look almost brand new.