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The Point Of Emptiness

The Point Of Emptiness by Bougie Girl Apparel

Sometimes, we have to empty out all of the toxins taking refuge within our heart. We have to let go of the past betrayals and those whom perpetrated them against us. Infidelity, lies, and other unpleasantness which prevent us from the fresh start which we all deserve.

Loving vs. Longing

Loving vs. Longing by Bougie Girl Apparel

I love you...but, I don't long for you. You are not the first thing that I think of when I wake up. I don't long to stroke your face or see you smile. But, I love you nonetheless. The way that I feel about her is different. 
It's not love more of a longing. I long to know how she is doing. I long to know what makes her happy. But, I don't love her.
She is someone whom I can fantasize about but, she's not real. She doesn't make me breakfast in the morning. She doesn't know how I take my coffee.
 She doesn't have my heart...just my full attention.

My Beauty Lies In My Crazy...

My Beauty Lies In My Crazy... by Bougie Girl Apparel

My beauty has little do with my clothing size, the symmetry of my face, and/or the shininess of my hair. No, my beauty lies in my high self-worth, my empowered soul, and other aspects about me which this society has labelled  "crazy". 

Homely and Hostile

Homely and Hostile by Bougie Girl Apparel

I am not much to look at. Please don't start with the well-meaning platitudes about the importance of inner beauty. Also, please don't mention how my myopic tolerant prince is coming to rescue me from embittered online debates with unenlightened jerks and others of their ilk.
The simple truth is that men are not fighting each other for the chance to take me out or even to open the door for me. As a homely woman I only receive chivalry from men either over 75 or boys under the age of 13. 
The remainder of the male population has yet to acknowledge me.
Admittedly, during my younger years, this overt neglect saddened me. 
However, along the way,  I converted my  deep sadness into hostility. Now, I am the one in power. Whereas before I would feel inferior towards attractive and vivacious women, now I just go out of my way to discredit them.
 I start by nitpicking all of their physical flaws, ridicule their lack of intellect, and make them …


Quasi-Abusive by Bougie Girl Apparel

"It's not that bad." The road to abuse has to start somewhere. Sometimes, it's a blatant act. However, most of the time, it starts off with an act of quasi, yet  nonetheless blatant abusive behavior.
You are working on a project together and something major and/or minor goes awry. All of the sudden your significant other/friend/co-worker has a complete meltdown in which they start angrily berating you. After the moment passes, they are "normal" again. You put the episode out of your mind. The next meltdown occurs in public and now there are witnesses to theie cray-cray.
 You are forced to look at the reality of your situation.
 Right now, you are in the quasi-abusive stage of your association. This is the best time to make your excuses and break off the relationship.  But, will you leave?
Probably not. 
You convince yourself that things are "fine"  and that it will truly never happen again. Slowly, you withdraw…

Game-Changing Is How I Roll...

Game-changing is how I roll. Through the years, I have really tried to fight my inner game-changer. But, she will not be quelled. My inner game-changer enters a situation and immediately begins to evaluate how it can be improved.  Over the years, her tenacity has garnered both positive and negative reactions. Day by day, I learn to accept this very integral part of my personality.

Sprouting New Dreams

Sprouting New Dreams by Bougie Girl Apparel

I am sprouting new dreams right now. God and the Universe have spoken. What they had to say to me was not altogether shocking. However, their decree came at an inconvenient time for me. But, is anytime really convenient for a complete life change?

And The Antidote to Pettiness Is...

And The Antidote To Pettiness Is... by Bougie Girl Apparel

Short Essay Test Questions: What is the true definition of pettiness?What is the antidote for pettiness? Will performing positive life-changing actions help erase pettiness?     Bougie Girl's Answers:
Pettiness is taking a small situation and/or slight (either real or perceived) and reacting in a mean and vengeful manner.Self-awareness about how we are treating ourselves and others. Detaching from outcomes is another way of keeping the poison of pettiness out of our lives.Yes. However, positivity  sometimes can generate a petty and mean reaction in others vibrating on a lower level than us. Yet, we must not let fear of being misunderstood prevent us from being a source of light in the world.

Honesty Monologue: Before You Have That Meltdown

Before You Have That Meltdown... by Bougie Girl Apparel

Meltdowns rarely help a stressful situation. In fact, they generally do more harm than good. The temporary relief that one feels from completely unloading their anger and frustration out on someone else is short-lived at best. The aftermath of a meltdown  can be felt many months and sometimes years down the road.
Are there times that we may need to "check" someone on their  habitual poor treatment of us? 
Heck, yeah!
However, we have to ask ourselves why are we continuing to associate with someone whom does not value us in the first place?