He was your first love. You guys were virtually carbon copies of one another. But, it couldn't last, because...you guys were virtually carbon copies of one another. Your combined vibration was fun and novel at first but, you guys could never get very far either on your own or together.
Then, the fights and accusations started.
"You're holding me back." You accuse.
He responds in kind.
The truth is that you are both holding each other back. Neither one of your vibration levels is high enough to propel you past the point of where you are. It can only go down from here.
So, you make the decision to leave him.
Not too long after, you come across a man whom is a couple of steps ahead of you on the path. Being with him forces you to grow past your previous low vibration. Soon, you are traveling places and meeting different types of people and it's all because of his influence. You are his best pupil. But, after awhile you long to be his companion and not his pupil.
He admits that he will not ever view you as a companion but, just as a pupil. You decide that being his pupil will stagnate you in the long run. You both part on good terms. He moves onto to his next pupil and you head for the Land of Solitude.
You stay in solitude for a year. You explore new horizons by yourself and send good vibes to your former mentor for his tutelage. Then, you come up on another man.
He has strengths that you do not possess but, he is weak in the areas in which you are strong. For the first time ever, you encounter a man whom you can truly grow with. You are not his buddy, nor his pupil... but, his true companion.
This all happened 20 years ago, and you have been blissfully married ever since. Whenever people ask you about the secret of your marriage...you instruct them to find a companion who has strengths that you don't possess and vice versa. Too much sameness and nothing moves. Too much disparity in life experience and it turns into a teacher-student dynamic which can kill passion and stunt your emotional growth.