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Showing posts from September, 2017

i am a bougie girl: Shoe Polish Is A Game-Changer

Earlier this week, I re-discovered shoe polish. These boots are five years old and were ready for the trash heap. They were covered in scuff marks on  the toes and the heels. Thanks to a 10 minute swabbing of shoe polish, these boots look almost brand new.

i am a bougie girl: Relax...

Lately, I seem to be in a spiral of work, socializing, and creating. As a result, I have been guilty of not kicking back enough to enjoy the beginning fruits of my labor. The need to continue creating takes precedence over a night of relaxing. Though, I am getting better about turning off my laptop by 9 pm.

i am a bougie girl: All At Once...

My life has begun to take shape...all at once. I am not even done with this season of a comeback phase.  Each week, I write up a list of manageable objectives. Accomplishing these objectives brings me closer to the life that I am designing for myself. 
One of the biggest challenges in this comeback endeavor is to remember to enjoy my life as I am designing it.

i am a bougie girl: Creative Life Design

I first wore this dress as a bridesmaid in a dear friend's wedding back in 2014. I still cannot believe that it was 3 years ago. Life was so different for me back then. I had all of these plans but, little or no commitment to see them through. Also, for the first time in years, I felt self-conscious about my life plans. Probably, because they did not fit within the narrow scope  of what Midwestern society finds to be acceptable.

I was making plans to be a single mom by choice, trying to figure out how to cash flow a farm property and moving my career in a very unfamiliar direction. In other words, I was a 40 year old going through a major life crisis within a region of the country which expects everyone to be settled comfortably into their lives by age 30.

Within the past several months, I have solidified my commitment to design a life tailor made for me and not the expectations of an unseen Majority.

i am a bougie girl: On All Fronts

Taking my life to the next level has involved a lot of time, money, and a radical shift of my mindset.
Last year, I reached a point where I stopped settling for situations that were not contributing to my personal growth in the long run.  Now, I am living a high octane life on all fronts and much happier for it. 

i am a bougie girl: Barely Visible

A few weeks ago, I went to a local park and snapped photos. It was early on a Saturday morning and the sun was shining very brightly. Yet, the way in which the photo came out you would swear that it was taken at sunset.
This photo is a metaphor for the grittier parts of my comeback. Things have been going smoothly...except for all of the growth opportunities which have been coming my way lately. 
Last night, I was filled with an unexpected rush of fear and panic. I wanted so badly to pack up everything and start a brand new life. Alas, in 2017 that is not as easy as it once was. 
After some much needed rest and contemplation, I chalked up last night's anxiety as something akin to growing pains.

i am a bougie girl: Feel These Highlights

These highlights have given me a new lease on life. My inner diva came back out to play and she has no plans for returning back to the cave of despair. 

i am a bougie girl: Adventures In Being Makeup Free

Sometimes, I like not wearing makeup. Especially, on busy Saturday mornings filled with a million household chores and paperwork. This evening I am attending a wedding with a reception to follow. I will have to throw on long frock and get all glammed up for the festivities. But, for the next couple of hours I can luxuriate in my make up free existence.

i am a bougie girl: Take Thyself To The Public Library

So many library books to read and not enough long stretches of time to read them all.  The struggle is real and I would not have it any other way.