The first date was so simple and the following ones were filled with long conversations which stretched late into the night. Both of you are seeking a different relationship than the one that you had prior to meeting.
Your date nights span the realm of fancy dinners to lazy weekend afternoons spent walking through bookstores. As the weeks turn into months, your differing life goals become a source of tension.
Ten years ago, one of you would have put your life/career on hold and cheered the other from the sidelines. But, each party is over the age of 40 and in your peak earning years. These types of sacrifices can adversely affect one's life...especially, if the relationship does not work out.
Upon first glance, these courtships seem to be a huge waste of time and energy. However, they are great spaces in which to heal and transition into the next stage of life.