We desperately wish to escape from our emotional prison cell...kinda. We know that our regular habit of crawling up into a bottle of whiskey to temporarily erase all of the crappy elements of life is counterproductive.
Yet, on some level we thwart our own chances of escape. The prison door swings open and we refuse to leave our cell. We make up excuses for why we need to stay incarcerated just a little bit longer. We stay locked in Loser Spirit situations, we find reasons not heal in therapy, we hang onto outmoded versions of ourselves, and we avoid anyone whom challenges us on our BS.
I suggest we make our prison cell as comfy as possible. Why get defensive about staying in our self-created lock up? Why not just own up to the fact that there are some perks to living in a self-created prison?
Here are a few advantages to residing in a prison of our own making:
1. We never have to emotional grow. We get to retain the maturity level of an adolescent. (Woo-hoo!)
2. We hold everyone else accountable for our poor decisions. (Where can I sign up for this?)
3. We hold those around us emotionally hostage until they give into our demands. (Heck,yeah. Prison life, yo!)
Actually, I am a huge proponent of not living in any type of prison. However, I can understand the allure of staying emotionally stunted.
My suggestion to those living in self-created prisons is to just admit that you enjoy the payoff of staying in your cell. Stop fighting it and just rock your situation!