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i am a bougie girl: Trajectory Of Regret

The Midwestern way of life is to finish college, get married, buy a house, and start a family right away. This is the prescribed trajectory for a majority of the people here. Woe is the person whom opts out of the expected trajectory in favor of forging their own path.

These loyal trajectory followers have been known to cast stones at the less traditional folks whom walk amongst them.

"One day, you will regret starting a family in your 40's."

"We will be done raising kids by age 45 and you will be stuck going to ice cream socials at the elementary school. Don't worry, we will send you a postcard from our travels."

Little do they know that their spouse is about to leave them, fall ill, and/or has become reluctant to travel more than 50 miles away from home. Their long coveted freedom will become delayed by unforeseen circumstances that life is infamous for doling out at the wrong time.

A decade will roll by and the smugness that they flung at those late bloomers has been replaced with a sheepishness and bucket loads of regret.


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