i am a bougie girl

Not all relationships are meant to last a lifetime. Heck, some of them barely make it a month before fizzling out. Instead of pondering and wondering about why it wasn't meant to last. Perhaps, we should classify these mini-relationships as a Cameo Appearance instead of an outright failure.

You have hidden your talents away from the world because you are afraid of being rejected.You have crammed your gifts into  a tiny box. A box which you carry around in the bottom of your tote bag.

You have become adept at ignoring the whimpers of protests which are coming from your soul.
It's time for you to step away from  the "nothing special" persona which has followed you around for years.

So what are you waiting for? Open up your Pandora's box of talents and set them free.

Crystals and stones can help manage and shape the energy flowing within our lives. However, crystals and stones can only help our energy fields so much. Ultimately, we are the stewards of the energy coming into our lives.

The item pictured is not a wearable shoe. However, one can't deny the sassy aura which surrounds it. I know that the Fall fashion season will be upon us soon. Sparkly flip flops and strappy sandals will be replaced with more sensible footwear. Yet, we musn't go so sensible in our shoes that it takes the fun right out of our Fall wardrobe.
We have to bring a bit of summer sass into the Fall.

Summer is almost over. I know that a majority of you probably did not want to be reminded of this sad fact. However, the good news is that you do not have to spend a lot of money on going back to school. In fact, you probably already have the tools that you need to make this upcoming school year a success.

Tune into the Bougie Girl University podcast entitled: 
"Back To School Bargains For Working Adults"

This summer has been a mixture of travel, new beginnings, and a lot of podcasting. I have spent a majority of my weekends this summer blogging and podcasting. At this point, I am up to 4 podcasts and I do not envision giving any of them up.

However, for the next couple of weeks, I am taking a brief hiatus from podcasting until next month. Rest assured, I will be still be blogging and may even post up a couple of new videos.

I baked these cupcakes to cheer up a family member.
Admittedly, I am more of a savory cook and not a baker. However, I am working to change this sad fact. The cake portion of the dessert tasted wonderful yet, my frosting skills are still a little on the weak side.

Caution: I Don't Act Right by Bougie Girl Apparel


I don't act right. I try. I try really hard to channel my innate sense of home-training. But, I seem to be failing miserably. I guess the only thing that I can do is to try harder to tomorrow.

We live in the age of entrepreneurial gurus. They shout at us about the dangers of being average and how mediocrity is hell on earth. Perhaps, this type of motivation could be appropriate for a certain population of folks whom are stagnating in their golden cages of comfort and are in the need of a wake up call.

Yet, what about people whom are struggling to even get to the point of average?

Can they reasonably expect to go from 0 to awesome in a short amount of time?

Wouldn't it be better if those whom are on the bottom financial rung in society aimed to be average first before rocketing to awesome?

Not everyone aspires to be a superstar some want to set up a stable environment so that their children and younger generations have a shot of doing so.

Should we demonize them because their aims are much less ambitious than those whom subscribe to the philosophy of "Go big or go home"?

This Is Me Not Settling Mouse Pads by Bougie Girl Apparel

You will see me do a lot of things. I will admit when I am wrong. I will defend my friends and family to the ends of the earth. But, I will never settle for a BS relationship just to be able to say that I have "somebody". No one is perfect. But, please note that there is a vast difference between dealing with someone else's eccentricities/quirks vs. being in a disrespectful relationship where psychodrama is always in play. I feel very blessed that my severe allergy to BS has enabled me not burn too much daylight in situations which would have required me to either develop amnesia to cope with it long-term or compromise my self-respect.

During the past month or so, the energy has been straight up wacky with huge bits of angers strewn about it for good measure. I have witnessed the way in which several relationships and associations have been completely blown apart by the slightest provocation. Granted, said relationships and associations were probably not exactly healthy in the first place yet, the endings were emotionally violent nonetheless.

Which brings me to this evening's blog topic of consolidation. A few years ago, I started blogging about topics related to career and vocational pursuits. At the time, I followed conventional blogging wisdom and set up separate blogs to cover the aforementioned topics. However, these days, I want everything under the umbrella of one blog which I am happy to announce will be this one.

I want to take a moment to thank the current wacky energy for assisting me with this decision. Life is going to be a whole lot simpler and this blog will go back to being filled with fiction p…

Have I mentioned that I love being 40?

They say that 40 is the new 30 but, for me it is a whole new frontier.

The year I turned 30 was filled with loss, disillusionment, and a myriad of other external struggles.
 I lost a whole network of college friends and I was struggling to start over from a financial disastrous end of my 20's.

This year, I experienced loss and a dash of disillusionment but, I viewed it in a different manner than before. I see loss as an opportunity to step/wobble into a new season of life. 

A few weeks ago, I had a natural hair breakdown. My kinky curly hair was being pummeled by high humidity. I could barely brush it up into a bun. Twist outs leave my hair matted and unworkable.  I opted to get a Kenra Smoothing treatment. I was a little nervous going the keratin treatment route but, something had to be done. I just wanted to be able to style it without an epic battle. The process just took a couple of hours and I love the results. My hair is manageable without being stick straight. The treatment lasts up to 60 washes.