Loving what's there isn't easy. It requires us to see things for how they really are and not how we want them to be.
Falling in love with possibility is much easier. We can craft a fantastic love story in our head and then bolt when the reality does not match our fantasy. Sometimes, it takes a heartbreak or two before we stop this destructive behavior. Let's face it, the decision to love in a mature fashion is not a natural reflex for most of us.