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Quasi-Abusive by Bougie Girl Apparel

"It's not that bad."
The road to abuse has to start somewhere. Sometimes, it's a blatant act. However, most of the time, it starts off with an act of quasi, yet  nonetheless blatant abusive behavior.

You are working on a project together and something major and/or minor goes awry. All of the sudden your significant other/friend/co-worker has a complete meltdown in which they start angrily berating you. After the moment passes, they are "normal" again. You put the episode out of your mind. The next meltdown occurs in public and now there are witnesses to theie cray-cray.

 You are forced to look at the reality of your situation.

 Right now, you are in the quasi-abusive stage of your association. This is the best time to make your excuses and break off the relationship.  But, will you leave?

Probably not. 

You convince yourself that things are "fine"  and that it will truly never happen again. Slowly, you withdraw family and friends...thereby making it easier for the relationship to escalate into a full blown abusive relationship.


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