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Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Freewriting Series: In My Life

I am listening to Bette Midler's version of The Beatles song "In My Life". I have always liked this song but, I had never understood the meaning of it until after my relationship broke up last year.  All of the sudden its meaning became very clear to me.

See, we all have pasts which are complete with memorable places, exes, and bits of nostalgia thrown in. However, at the end of the day the people in our present reality have to take priority over those long lost folks from the past.  Just to be clear, I am not proposing that we evict old friends from our lives. Old friends are in a different category as long lost folks. 

I view old friends as folks whom you have a strong heart connection with and you will always have each other's backs no matter what. Old friends respect your current life and don't randomly pop up in it to start strife.

 I have seen so many healthy friendships and relationships damaged by long lost folks from  the past appearing and stirring up a whole bunch of drama. These long lost folks are allowed to do this because one of the parties in the friendship or relationship refuses to move into the present.

The lyrics of the song "In My Life" basically state that the past will always have a treasured place in the narrator's life however, no one compares to his current ladylove. 

I will always cherish my past relationships and friendships because I learned from them. Even the toxic ones had something to teach me.

To all of my long lost friends and exes, no matter how we parted...I wish nothing but the best for you all.

To all of my new friends, I feel truly blessed to have you in my life. I look forward to more adventures and overall wackiness.

To my future husband/partner I promise to give you the best of me. I will not hold you responsible for the actions of the men whom arrived in my life before you did. You will not be expected to pay the toll of my past heartbreaks and misjudgments. I come to you with an open heart which is filled with love and respect. 

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