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Overcoming the Loser Spirit: Taking Ownership

Taking Ownership Bag
Taking ownership of  our lives means that we no longer scapegoat other people for our problems or bad decisions. Owning up to our part in any situation empowers to move on with our lives. We cannot continue to blame our parents, significant others, children, exes, employers (past and present), and/or elected officials, for our unhappiness. Even though, their actions may have played a role in our less than satisfactory situation.

We cannot control other people and we cannot change the past. However, we can take ownership of our own actions and reactions towards others.  Taking ownership frees up our hearts and minds to accept  the positive things coming our way. In addition, it  keeps the Loser Spirit at bay.

Exercise #1
Answer the following questions:

  •  Do you struggle to take ownership of your part in the situation? If so, why? If not, why?
  • List out 5 past occurrences in which you did not take ownership of your part in the situation. Did the situation ever get resolved? If so, what was the resolution?
Research Assignment
Read at least 5 articles associated with the Internet search term "blaming others".

Song of the Day: 
Beethoven's Moonlight Sonata

Taking ownership of my part in every situation empowers me to grow as a person. Blaming and scapegoating others for my problems keeps me tethered to negativity.


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