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Side Pieces, After Bar Girls, Killing Time Girlfriends, and Defaults


Side Piece
You are in the background and you hate it. He promised to promote you from side piece to wifey, but so far this has not happened. It has been over 8 months and he still selling you the same raggedy dream. He is just waiting for the "right" time to introduce you to his family. You have wasted so much time with him, yet you are afraid to leave. It is clear that he does not really respect you. If he did, you would not be his side piece.

After Bar Girl
You do not like to think of yourself as an after bar girl. It is too depressing and brings into question your own issues with low self-worth. Instead, you have convinced yourself that accepting after bar sexual appointments is the same as being in a relationship with the late night visitor in question. You spend most of your time waiting for someone else.

Killing Time Girlfriend
He is not the one for you. Alas, you have put in years with him. You suffered in silence through his infidelity, verbal abuse, and rampant immaturity. He should propose to you on a matter of principle. Your friends and family point out that he is just "killing time" with you until something better comes along. You disagree. You believe that if you just wait long enough he will have no choice but to propose.

He always comes back to you. You have been there for him since jumpstreet. Yet, he never stays. Once, he finds someone else, then he leaves again. You do not care, because he always returns.  However, it is only a matter of time, before he will stay gone for good. 


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