Lesson #3-Being in a relationship with a wounded person can take a lot out of you. Learn to love them for who they are and do not try to "save" them for the sake of the relationship.
Loving a wounded man has been one of the most difficult things that I have endured in the past few years. Yet, I would not change the circumstances and everything that has occurred since we parted ways. I learned a lot about a recurring pattern which I need to break free of. I thought that if I could get him onto a higher level that it would equal me breaking this pattern of "saving" the men in my relationships.
But, my ploy backfired on me, thankfully. By trying so hard to make the relationship work, I was ultimately disrespecting his journey. It is up to an individual to change of their own volition. Either they will rise to the occasion or they will not. It is up to them to decide.
My ego, (which I am happy to say is crumbling as we speak), demanded that he forsake what I viewed as a less than healthy past for a better future with me. While, our future together would have been different from his past, it may not have necessarily been better. Especially, if he felt as though he had pushed into making the decision.
I have made the conscious choice at this time to let him go and love him from afar.